I heard that the suicide rate among Afrikaner males is at an all-time high and has been for many years. In fact it is out of proportion to the other race groups and the reasons are many and some say deliberately (I believe so) designed to induce suffering. It ranges from economic repression (BEE - that model of historic & worldwide failure which no long haired liberal will ever admit) to failed marriage relationships because of the economic repression.
We find quite often these days the male is at home because he is unable to find a job or have the resources to start a business. Hence the wife becomes the breadwinner and not all are kindly disposed with this state of affairs. Many, to their lasting shame, see this as a reason for divorce and then the man is even more damaged goods. Now he has debt he simply cannot pay and his children are taken away from him. In fact the family is broken which is of course what satan and the followers of satan wanted. He also has to live somewhere else in reduced circumstances as we educated men say when flat broke and nowhere to go to. When he meets someone else who is more privileged she thinks he needs a roof over his head (perhaps, who knows?). He just cannot win.
Obviously the couple could not have been soul mates for soul mates follow the two rules of love which we speak about in Better Men...a book which I am astonished to say is downloading at a tremendous rate. * The two rules of love are (1) never to do anything which will hurt the other and (2) always do what will keep the other one happy.
Rejecting a man because he became reduced for reasons beyond his control is long haired liberal behaviour in my eyes. Even John Locke, the philosopher with his theory of a social contract between state and citizen never equated marriage to the same level as a contract. Let me tell you, the law always intervenes in your life, even in marriage & relationships as we saw in my book The Circle of Life but it never presumed that a marriage is based upon the husband's ability to provide but on love and respect (in some countries also to perform - the so-called consummation of the marriage - not in South Africa).
For the Afrikaner male this enforced reduction is especially hard as he grew up with the idea of being the provider, to be strong and caring and to "make a plan." Most would have served honourably in the old South African Defence Force and Police where they often commanded men in battle. They are in fact in demand in other countries and yet, we read every Sunday (if you bother to buy the Sunday Propaganda known as newspapers) that there is a great shortage of managers and other qualified personal in the country. Yeah, they cannot find people to fill the available positions and now import foreigners at tremendous cost to do so. Or, and only a long haired liberal will find this an excellent solution - the position remains vacant or is filled by unqualified people.
What utter nonsense to say there are no qualified people! I have had the misfortune to attend quite a few of these "interviews" during my time and came to the conclusion that "recruiters" have no idea what they want or what their clients want. And they all follow the same pattern - a few minutes late to show you that you are desperate (which you are not - they are desperate to fill the position with the right candidate). Then a couple of forms to be completed including electronic fingerprinting which is a way of saying to you that they doubt your honesty or your CV. Then the interview with a young or middle age woman who obviously did not read your CV or if she did, cannot remember it and must be taken step by step through it. * On this point - they have no idea what a CV should look like - each has his own standards and they are mostly what I call derogatively a standard 3 CV – naam, van, plek en getuigskrif van die dominee (Name, Surname, place and reference from your minister). And then, you never hear from them again for they are too busy or too important (take your pick) to let you know and you have to guess the end result. Lastly, they have no idea how to speak to senior staff who is looking at director type positions - all in all as unprofessional as they can get away with. Telling you, if old age or boredom does not get me I plan to write a very nice book on "recruiters" which will make them cry foul as the banksters did with Your Worst Enemy. Another book which is downloading by the tens of thousands.
The "recruiters" are rather pathetic and I have a lot of sympathy with the trade unions and political parties (even if long haired liberals) who want them banned. It will probably not happen though - freedom of economy and all that you know. Which brings me to my point....Manne, ons moet ons eie ding doen en mekaar help...niemand gaan jou hand vashou nie. (Men, we must do our own thing and help each other...no-one is going to hold your hand.) And one last warning, never trust a father & son business which comes to you with a Bible under the arm. As we saw in my book Tricks of Trade - Memories of a Rogue Lawyer they will do you in from any angle you care to mention.
Koos Kotze is a former member of the South African Police Force. He served between 1985 and 1991 primarily as a sergeant in the Pretoria Flying Squad. During his police years, he was awarded the South African Police Medal for Combating Terrorism twice besides lesser awards. After leaving the Police Force he obtained the law degrees B Iuris & LLB at the University of the Free State (Bloemfontein, South Africa) and was a commercial law attorney for eight years. These days he is the owner of JKLS Africa and Associates, a specialist legal consultancy which specializes in hostage survival training and reducing legal risk in Sub Saharan Africa. He wrote several books on business, law, counter-terrorism and security issues. At times he is asked to participate on the Voice of America regarding legal forensic matters. Koos is a widower and lives in Bloemfontein, South Africa.